But with 87 million singles in the United States and nearly 40 million dating online, it seemed a good way to meet someone."No one is going to respond to someone who says they are a couch potato and likes to stay home."I was lucky. (I have friends who have been on dating sites for years.) I corresponded with 50 women and met 15 for drinks, which is recommended over meeting someone for dinner. Because if after 15 minutes you don't like the person you are stuck; and for men that means the bill as well.But then one cold night in November, I met a Match date in a bar in Greenwich Village.I had a date for the next Saturday night for seven years.Now that I am "single again," I wondered what was new in online dating in 2015.Emily Bartz, dating content manager for Next (which provides independent reviews and research of online services for consumers and small businesses), told me that online dating sites are becoming better at matching you to potential dates and online dating is increasingly being done on mobile phone dating apps."The biggest complaint people have about online dating is wasting time with people they have nothing in common with.Broken into two parts, 105 men were first read a hypothetical scenario involving a woman who either outperformed or underperformed them in a Maths or English course and then made to imagine them as a romantic partner.The men ranked a woman who outscored them as a more desirable partner, with the study stating that “men formed favourable impressions and showed greater interest in women who displayed more (versus less) intelligence than themselves.” However, the second part of the study – when men were asked if they would date such a woman in real life – showed that the men got cold feet.
According to the investment model of relationships, developed by social psychologist Caryl Rusbult in the 1980s, people who have invested more resources—time, energy, money—into a relationship should be more committed to it, and alternative partners should seem less attractive.
For younger women, dating older men can often lead to a rewarding, long-lasting relationships.
Naturally, for older men dating younger women, the same can be said, Fortunately for both parties, there are no longer the same restrictive social attitudes to younger women dating older men as there used to be even, say, 7-8 years ago.
The findings, to be published in the November edition of ‘Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin’, concluded that men find the propect of dating intelligent women intimidating.
The study, carried out by researchers the University of Buffalo, California Lutheran University and University of Texas, Austin, posits that men’s attraction to certain traits in women can be directly affected by how realistic a romantic prospect their potential lover is.