I've had crushes and done the odd online date, but I'd never dated seriously before. We started dating and it developed into a relationship shortly after. Woman D: We met initially at a mutual friend's house. Selecting a much younger partner increased the odds of him finding such a person. He has had three other serious relationships and they were all age-appropriate. Woman B: I was 23 when we started dating and he was 39. We got back in contact and I realized how much I missed having him in my life. Woman A: Looking back, I think he needed a partner who would tolerate his bullshit if he was to be in a relationship at all. Her older brother had invited a bunch of the people they worked with at the mountain over and I happened to be there. I think he was attracted to me because I asked him out, and I was able to banter with him off the bat. My friend (who was my age and in high school with me) worked at a ski resort near us. He's always been attracted to a person's personality. He actually thought I was older than I am, and both his wives were close to him in age.
Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me.
One of them published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology, looked at 400 romantic ads in the Swedish newspapers Göteborgs-Posten and Aftonbladet and on the websites Spraydate and Of a total of 97 men who mentioned age in their ads, only three were looking for an older partner — among men aged 40 to 59, only one out of 67.
Women I've interviewed between the ages of 40 and 70 largely believe men their age are interested in dating someone their own age.
Studies show older men prefer youth and beauty first for mate selection and women choose men who offer resources and stability.
It's no surprise there are a number of websites emerging and profiting from these "mutually benefiting" relationships.