In the annals of “things that definitely don’t matter when you’re 70”, nothing is more irrelevant to marital happiness than height. If one partner is chronically unemployed or in debt, relations can get strained. If your partner can’t understand what you’re talking about or lacks the maturity to try, he’s a waste of time. If someone is morbidly obese, he’s probably not making it to age 70. ) But one thing that I’ve never really gotten – after 10 years as a dating coach – was women’s obsession with height. However, “when the author randomized the information as well to see what would come up by chance, he found something surprising: left to chance, the wives were taller in 7.8 percent of couples— twice as many as before. The author of the Jezebel piece is 5’11” and had a very healthy and refreshing take on height: I never felt I was making some kind of concession by dating men shorter than me — I just dated people I was attracted to.
(By the way, ladies, this does NOT mean he has to be taller, smarter or fitter than you. Meaning, people are choosing to maintain this six inches of difference by going out of their way to pair up according to this distinction.” This is a rigid and arbitrary preference – most noteworthy, to me, in short and tall women. So, if you’re 5’1″, what difference does it make if he’s 5’7″ or 6’1″? But since most men are shorter than I am, had I eliminated them on the basis of shortness, I’d have been sitting out all those dances I never actually went to.
They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done.It's hard to ignore something as obvious as height, especially if it makes a person stand out.Some people opine that men are less attracted to a woman who is on an equal or higher level when it comes to matters of the pocketbook or education, and that a successful woman should dumb herself down to get a man.My time in the world of dating and relationships, both personally (as a former serial dater) and professionally (as a columnist, host and now a dating coach), has taught me that these conclusions, for the most part, are fallacies, the aforementioned girl-power refrain a line women repeat when they don't want to tell each other or themselves to look inward or at their dating behaviors or their choices in men.