A Narcissist survives by eliciting a reaction from you, usually sadness or anger.They solidifies their sense of control over you when you lose control.The narcissist, with his rigid personality, can’t change.He reverts to old forms and old habits, surrendering to former temptations.
Rather, I write this in hopes to better understand the differences and the similarities between Narcs and a**holes or even alcoholics and abusers.“Narcissism, in lay terms, basically means that a person is totally absorbed in self.
The extreme narcissist is the center of his own universe.
To an extreme narcissist, people are things to be used.
It usually starts with a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating in a major trauma of separation/attachment.“No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he/she has a major attachment dysfunction. He/she became emotionally stuck at the time of his/her major trauma of separation/attachment.”- How to Spot a Narcissist by Samuel Lopez de Victoria, Ph. No matter how much you do for them, they will not appreciate or notice. The people closest to the Narcissist are simply a reflection of himself. Something to consider here is we are all capable and probably have been an a**hole at one time or another.
The time you finally spoke your mind and told your best friend what you really thought OR the time you made a joke that was just a little too cutting…yes, these are a**holey things to do and often we regret them almost immediately.