What this means for you: I mentioned before that French people don’t generally have “the talk” where the prospective couple decides if they want to be exclusive, so how do you know if you and your Parisian paramour are BF and GF? This doesn’t really happen in French dating culture.If, during your courtship, you kiss on the lips it’s taken as a non-verbal agreement that you’re attracted to each other and are in a relationship.Luckily you do; otherwise you wouldn’t be here, right?So if you find yourself having a hard time understanding his culture’s idea of “l’amour”, not to worry, I’m here to help. No, probably not, but as a country France is pretty flirty.A few days ago, as an American friend of mine was telling me all about her new boyfriend and how he had asked her out with flowers, I realized how different courtship and dating is for teens in France and the US. Americans go on formal dates; we keep things secret.Americans only say “I love you” after months of dating.French women are independent; it's in their nature.
And when we do ask our love interest if he wants to have a relationship, it’s because we already kissed or at least gotten really close. There’s no such thing as DTR (Defining The Relationship) because exclusivity is implied.
The French often meet their significant other through their social circle at group get-togethers rather than “date" people they hardly know.
The way the French respond to another's interest in them, their accepted behavior during courtship and how their relationships progress can baffle an American seeking love in France.
The man-meets-woman language in France represents a major cultural difference for Americans.
When a man asks a French woman out and she says no, he might recognize this as a form of coy flirting and the desire to be pursued.