You’re simply trying to secure her phone number with the minimal amount of time and investment.Hey Evan, I have recently started chatting with someone on a dating site and he keeps asking me for my phone number. The place where your circles overlap is your relationship. The problem in dating is when you think your circle is the “right” one – even when it doesn’t overlap with anyone else’s circle. Women who ask men if they will commit on Date 1 are not “wrong”, but they are ineffective. You want to “chat with him for a good period of time,” and after “a few weeks of online chatter”, you’ll give him your phone number. However, I’m very uncomfortable giving you my phone number. It’s called the 2/2/2 Rule (two emails on the dating site, two emails off site, two phone calls and then a date).Or perhaps quickly trying to gauge your penis size. “I don’t want to waste my time.” Which is pretty much your defense for offering to go to the phone before she’s comfortable.And if simple courtesy isn’t enough reason to heed my advice, how about this: your way is ineffective. I would suggest that both will find their stances largely ineffective in dealing with the majority of the population.I’ve encountered very few men who have a problem with this.Unfortunately, almost every time I ask for a number or ask her to text me, I get ignored or politely declined.
Is it possible to find a woman who’ll have sex on Date 1? Is it possible to find a man who’ll wait until marriage before having sex? But there are a LOT fewer people who will agree to either.
In fact, 80% of the men who put their phone number in a first email do NOT get emails back. Because women want to be courted, needed, valued, and charmed.
And just because you’re artlessly writing to dozens of people doesn’t mean that any of them want to feel like a piece of meat. You’re not getting to know her, you’re not showcasing your wit, you’re not laying the groundwork for a great first date.
Timing is important when it comes to moving an online relationship offline.
You don't want to act too quickly or you come across as desperate.